Yourself first, and then Relationships, trust me…

Growing up, it’s always been easy to give into the idea of an over-idealistic romance and the concept of a soul mate who’s out there just waiting to be found and a whirlwind of life with everything we need based on that one companion we end up finding and all.

Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against love. In fact, the truth is the opposite. I adore the concept of love and having that person who you can share anything with and have no secrets from and someone you can always always always trust to be there for you. That’s the glass half full side of me. But of course, there also exists a glass half empty side of me that looks at the concept of love as is. That is, for me love need not be romance, it’s what I have for my mum and it exactly what I have with my best friend who lives halfway across the globe from me. 

Getting to the point. 

We’ve (unfortunately) grown up in a world where we grew up watching and reading about couples and romance and love and that part of companionship. In contrast, women empowerment and racism and equality, while highlighted often, were never the main picture. 

And so, we’ve ended up in an age where finding that one person you spend your life with, is a must. And with that being a necessity, life, unfortunately, often revolves around this expedition to find him/her!

Don’t get me wrong. I do know that this is also changing in the very recent times. But I believe that the change is something that is happening subconsciously. It is, however, very important that this, changes.

We people, irrespective of our age, forget one integral part of our lives.


So yea, that what I am trying to say. In today’s fast-paced world we’re all on a run to find the path we’re meant to be on, to achieve in this path, to settle down the way we want to and so much more. I know for a fact that all of this together is what influences our happiness in life. Unfortunately, we often end up pausing all of this, to find that one person.

Here’s today’s take away!

Finding that person will make you happy beyond expectations. But having just him/her and nothing else will also make you miserable. So take a deep breath, concentrate on yourself. Do everything you want to get done. Achieve everything you wished for, be happy and fall in love with yourselves.

And then, ladies and gentlemen, find that relationship that makes you happy. Because after all, love isn’t just romance, it’s that care for someone that exists beyond everything else. As long as you’re in a good place! Because otherwise, who are you living for, and what happens when they move on?

3 thoughts on “Yourself first, and then Relationships, trust me…

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  1. Hi Shreya!
    You probably don’t remember me, but we used to go to school together and I’m glad I stumbled on your blog. I’ve been reading msot of them and really liked this one. Keep writing!

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    1. Hi Swetha, definitely do remember you. I’m glad you like what you found. Would love to hear any feedback or suggestions you have for me. And thank you so much for reading 😄


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